The Male Mind AFTER The No Contact Rule- What Is He Thinking?
You don't really have to jump into a relationship right away, but a few dates will . After 37 days of no contact, on Oct 30, my ex contacted me and asked me to. The second relationship killers (Facebook and social media) are far behind it. I completed the 30 days no contact successfully and 6 days after (which was 4. I thought that for the first time in my life, I was in a relationship where I wasn't the one . Breathe deeply, stick to your plan of 30 days no contact, and let him go.
What to do AFTER No Contact Rule To Get Your Ex Back - 5 Essential Steps
Stop wasting your time and move on. My girlfriend of 4 months broke up with me 3 weeks ago.
I tried to do no contact, but texted her after 2 weeks saying that I hoped that she was doing well. She responded with a cold, "thanks, you too. Do I have to re-start the no contact period? Yes, you should restart no contact from the beginning. However, you need to remember that this is all about you reaching a place where you feel emotionally stronger and able to live your life without her. We love each other very much, but every time we see each other, it ends in a fight.
There is a lot of hurt and resentment on both sides. He still wants to marry me but wants relationship counseling first. However, I feel that I need some space in the hope it sheds light on everything. I want to do 30 days no contact. What do I do if he calls me to go to counseling before the 30 days is up?
He doesn't want to throw away what you have and is prepared to take steps to make it work. Equally, you want to take some time out to think things through. Your situation is more suited to a modified form of no-contact. If you want, you can attend the counseling sessions while maintaining no-contact outside of these times. However, your counselor may advise differently.
Will the no contact rule work? It depends on what you expect the no contact rule to do. Reading between the lines, it seems that you want to get your ex back.
While this is perfectly natural, it is not what no contact is about. The no contact rule is all about you. It will work in the sense that it will help you emerge from a breakup as painlessly as possible. It's about making you emotionally stronger. By all means, start no contact, but please re-read the article to gain a better understanding.
I went 3 years no contact with my ex. However, we now have limited contact. I still feel the same way about him and know I still love him.
I'm unsure if this is the type of contact I want with him. Do you think it's best to stay clear or have contact and remain polite? Many people mistakenly believe that no contact simply means ignoring your ex.
It is about rebuilding yourself and becoming emotionally stronger. While it is not uncommon to have some feelings for your ex, you clearly want more from him than he is able to offer.
Maintaining contact with him appears to be hurting you. Stay clear and move on with your life. I am in the no contact period but only two days passed. My ex has already contacted me on the phone and we had a conversation that lasted for one hour.
We only spoke about things in general and didn't discuss our breakup or anything related to it. Is it fine to talk when he was the one who called me? After that, I was feeling compelled to text him and was left feeling confused as to whether to contact him or to let him contact me. You need to think carefully about this.
Unless your ex had a specific reason for calling you, there is no justification for you to spend an hour on the phone chit-chatting with him. As you have discovered, this has only served to leave you feeling extremely confused.
You need to question his motives for calling. If he had rung to say that he was extremely sorry, didn't want to break up with you and could you meet up to discuss what had happened, then fair enough. However, he didn't do that.
My advice would be not to contact him and to refrain from any further conversations that serve no useful purpose. You are still in a vulnerable state of mind and the last thing you need is to be kept dangling on a piece of string. This only gives you false hope. Good luck with this. I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago. I didn't have any intention of breaking up with him, but he had been secretly seeing and texting another woman. This makes me feel insecure, and I really want him to commit to our relationship and minimize contact with these other women.
I even asked him to put our photo in WhatsApp to reassure me, but he simply ignored me. What should I do? Should I implement the no-contact rule? I am totally lost. You don't say how long you were together, but it is clear that you want to be in an exclusive relationship, whereas your ex does not.
He's not ready to commit and you need to accept this. If you don't, you will continue to feel insecure and potentially worthless. Your ex is neither ready nor willing to give you what you want.
The No Contact Rule: Everything You Need To Know About It
Use the no-contact rule to rebuild your self-esteem. In time, you will find someone who is worthy of your love. I want to get back together with him. Firstly, you need to successfully complete at least 30 days of no contact. If, after this period, you still feel the same way, then you should follow the steps outlined my article 'How to Contact Your Ex After the No Contact Rule': Two weeks after our breakup my ex texted me to thank me for a gift I sent her. I replied and tried to enter into dialogue with her.
She replied once but didn't respond to my second text. The following day, I sent her another short text. Have I messed up again?
Why would you want to send her a gift?Will Your Ex Forget About You During No Contact?
The beauty of no contact is that you can recommence it at any time. So, start again today and remember that no contact means exactly that!
I'm three months into my no contact rule. I forgave my ex twice and twice he hurt me. I am determined to recover from this. My question is why is he on my mind when I don't want to think about him? As irritating as it may seem, thinking about your ex is perfectly normal. As your partner, he played a significant role in your life. When you broke up, it left a void.
You are in the throes of grieving not only for him, but the life you had together, and the future you thought had. Acknowledge these thoughts and then let them go. The sooner you accept and come to terms with your breakup, the sooner you will be able to move on. To help overcome this period of 'grief,' you must keep yourself as busy as possible. This is an essential element of no contact. Imagine for a moment that you had attempted the 30 day no contact rule and failed at it.
Lets say you only lasted something like a week.
In other words, what a man will think after a failed no contact rule will be different than what he is going to be thinking during a successful one and since we are all positive thinkers here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery we are going to just focus on the successful no contact rule. Now, I will be the first to admit that no woman has ever done a 30 day no contact rule on me but I have been on the receiving end of a half day, day and three day no contact rule and let me tell you that it drove me absolutely crazy.
In this section I am going to be talking about some of the thoughts that your ex boyfriend might potentially have after the no contact rule assuming that you completed a 30 day rule on him.
I have pinpointed the top five things that he will be thinking and as always I will be covering each of these things in a very in-depth manner. Lets take a moment to look at all of these thoughts. After all, the no contact rule is supposed to help reunite a happy couple. But lets take a step back and really take a look at what is going on in your exes head and probably the best way to do that is to give you a real life example.
When I was in college I was friends with this guy who was literally head over heels for this girl. Well, he ended up taking this girl on one date and he thought that the date went pretty well.
So, she decided to get rid of him the only way she knew how without hurting his feelings, ignoring him. Here is the funniest part though, despite calling her all those names behind her back he was very persistent in trying to win her and eventually he did. The point I am trying to make here is that if anyone is angry at you ignoring them it is because they want to talk to you.
I told you above that the no contact rule has been used on me in certain cases but never for an extended period of time like 30 days. If you end up getting a response like this from your ex boyfriend after the no contact rule has been completed then I would be extremely happy. What does that tell you? Look, I have been ignored before by a woman and let me tell you that it is extremely annoying to want nothing more to be heard when instead you are ignored.
It makes you feel a little insignificant as a man and the more insignificant a man feels the more he will feel like he has to prove. They are scared that if they use the no contact rule on their ex that he will think that they want nothing to do with him and I am not going to lie to you, some men will think that. In fact, it might even be a good thing because as I have pointed out so many times men love women who are a challenge. Why do they love a challenge? Think of it like this. Lets take two sports cars and compare them.
What are the sports cars? A Mustang A Lamborghini Every year millions of Mustangs are made for consumers whereas only a certain amount of Lamborghinis are made. What do you think people go more crazy over? The Mustangs or the Lamborghinis? Because they are rarer and of higher value. The most expensive Mustang ever sold at an auction was a 1. That mustang had decades to increase in value. Well, last year alone Lamborghini made 3 cars only 3 that sold for 3. Lets turn our attention to the type of man who has a brain and realizes that you are probably playing some sort of game by not contacting him.
Now, I will admit that for you this is probably the worst type of ex boyfriend to have because he probably knows exactly what is going on. He probably knows that you are ignoring him on purpose so that he will miss you and ultimately want you to come back. Lets assume that you and I dated and we broke up with each other. Well, after the break up you employ the no contact rule on me. There is just one problem, this is me we are talking about here and I run a website where I teach women how to get their exes back so I pretty much know every trick in the book.
In other words, I know exactly what you are trying to do with the no contact rule. I guess the question I am throwing out here is, Will the no contact rule work on someone who knows it is happening to them?
Well, yes and no. Allow me to expand on that.